| This book is about Charisma - among other things. Its about skillful human interaction and most of all, about Game. So what is this thing called Game? Well, have you ever interacted with someone that you were just drawn to? Maybe you felt an underlying sense of trust and comfort, and maybe there was certain smoothness in the way that they interacted with people and the way that conversation just flowed? And people were just drawn to this person naturally. And the more time that you spend with this person, the more you feel a connection like both of you are coming from the same place where time just seems to stop and youre completely wrapped up in the moment engaged and captivated. Having Game is about being able to create these kinds of connections wherever you go with whoever you meet. Now how would you like to have more Game? The underlying principles discussed in this book can be used in virtually any social context from dating, to the job, to social interactions with friends.
Now Game can be further divided into Inner game and Outer game. Ive done extensive modeling of people who have Game and you can think of Game in terms of process and product. Products are the surface level expressions of deeper intangible processes. Its like when you see ripples on the surface of a pond, and you realize that there are deeper undercurrents which are causing those ripples. Processes are those deeper undercurrents. I first of all present a Mindset. Inner game these are the internal beliefs, attitudes, and values that naturally flow from a sense of who you are, your identity, and your sense of self meaning. Outer game skills flow naturally from a good Inner game. I next present a Skillset. Outer game these are the capabilities, behaviors, skills, and strategies that create results. Outer game can feedback into Inner game as well so that whether you focus on Inner game or Outer game first, realize that the two are tied into each other and that your focus is whats important. Whenever you see someone whos doing something that works, look deeper. Look for process as well and you may just find something useful. Its kind of interesting to notice that although the outer game may vary among those who are successful, the Inner game is often very similar.
Now who is this book for? This book is for anyone who wants to improve their Game. If youre a Salesman, Marketer, Actor, Entertainer, Politician, Lawyer, Doctor, Public Speaker, Teacher then your people skills are vital read on. If youre in the Dating Game, then you can use this book to take it to a whole new level read on. If you want to form a deep connection with someone, or with groups of people then read on. As humans, we need human interaction to not only satisfy our needs for connection, but to help us define who we are and to make meaning out of our lives. We are continually connecting and finding similarities and differences between ourselves and others. Connection is what makes us human. Improving your Game can take this to whole new level.