I spent several years studying body language. Reading every book, every article, every thing that I could find in a quest to unlock the hidden meanings in our movements and gestures... essentially to be able to read someone else's mind simply by observing their body movements. It's quite a fascinating area... and I still dabble in it from time to time.
The only problem with reading the bodies of others, or using your own to project the suave, charismatic image you'd like, is that most of these "little signs" you read about are useless. Interesting, but useless. You simply can't look at any one particular body cue, or even a few of them, and conclude, with any level of certainty, what another might be thinking or is going to do. Body gestures and movements always have to be viewed in groups, and placed in context... to be of any use at all.
And viewing groups of movements and attempting to interpret them in relation to the context is just way too much info for a normal person to cognitively process during the course of his or her daily interactions. After all, how are you going to be charming, and witty, and intelligent, if you're constantly obsessing over another's every little movement in an attempt to figure out what they might be thinking? "Let's see, she's scratching her nose, adjusting her skirt, crossing, no uncrossing her legs... Oh my God!"
Now if you had the other on tape, and could watch his or her movements over and over again, then you might be able to make some reasonable guesses as to what they may be thinking. But again - useless in everyday life. Nevertheless, there are a few BIG cues that mean BIG things - usually. I'm going to go over six of the biggest and give you a few suggestions on how to use your body in order to project an image of charm and Juanism. These are very simple things that you can do to increase the probability that others, especially cute girls, will come to like you. Simple movements, essentially, that will draw women to you like a magnet.
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