How Hypnosis Can Help You Weather The Emotional Storms Of Others

One of the most important skills that hypnosis can teach at a subconscious level is awareness and calm when faced with the emotional storms of others. It's somewhat of a cliche that one can't change another but can only change one's reactions, but it is simply not easy to change one's reactions when the heart is racing, the palms are sweating and mirror neurons are firing in the brain encouraging one to respond in kind... right now! While one person in the throes of an emotional storm can be unsettling and unpleasant, two people storming together creates a level of destruction that can last and be hard to forget.

Emotional reactions and physical reactions to stressful encounters occur so quickly that no conscious thought is possible. In fact, the reasoning part of the brain does not work so well when the storms hit. Emotional storms involve immediate fight/flight and freeze areas of the brain. Wouldn't it be nice if one party was actually thinking and reasoning when the other is in emergency mode?

We are wired to react with emotion when someone we are close to is emotional. It makes sense for social animals. If someone is about to attack aggressively-running or fighting are appropriate survival responses.

If a spouse or child is crying or yelling they might be in danger and our emergency response may create safety for them and there may be no time for reasoned thought.

Problems can arise when someone we are close to responds to non-emergencies with a great deal of arousal such as fear, rage or grief and we respond to their feelings with emotional arousal of our own. No one is thinking rationally in such a situation and our reactions are a mismatch to what is actually going on.

You can tell someone until you are blue in the face that they should calm down and that there is nothing that warrants such a reaction and they will simply feel misunderstood.

A hypnotic rest that anchors the feeling of calm in the storms of others no matter what people around are doing can help on a subconscious level. Reason and calm are the result of slowed breathing, quieted heart rate and a soothing inner voice that does not hear "now or never" but knows "this too shall pass." When such inner calm is practiced and mentally rehearsed while the client is in trance, calmer reactions can kick in when needed. People surprise themselves when they find themselves able to remain calm when a loved one is storming. Soon the calm becomes habitual. With one person calm and reasonable it's easier to wait for the storm to pass and to rebuild in its wake!

Niki is a National Guild of Hypnotists Certified Hypnotist. If you are looking for more information, to order a CD or to request an appointment time please visit the website at http://www.itstimehypnosis.com/. It's Time!

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