Decibel's Biography(Books)(Photos)

Decibel's Journey from AFC to PUA
Daytona PMd me asking me to trace my journey

up straight, I keep my hands at my sides, I
smile, etc. Undoing 38 years of really really

from AFC to now. So to respond, I'm putting
up this post for anyone interested.

bad habits that subcom low value and low
self-esteem.

I woke up in the middle of 2007 realizing I

I develop my PUA 6th sense – the ability to

had 2 friends (both from high school), hadn't
had a girlfriend in 2 years, and had spent

read subtle nonverbal cues and to calibrate
appropriately. This was not hard since I'd

every night playing video games, downloading
porn or watching Netflix. Or some combination

been sitting there watching people most of my
life; that was the one remnant of my AFC life

of these. I was 38.

which has paid off. I field tested various
tactics, from openers to LMR. I held no

My parents had gotten me The Game when it
came out, but I put it on the shelf since I

attachment for any particular set, coming at
it like a scientist in the lab, determined to

hate to read. Then VH1 showed the PUA1, and a
light bulb came on. I read The Game and the

figure out social dynamics and how I fit into
the matrix.

MM. I spent a week doing that, as well as
getting more info from the web, and then I

I take an inner game journey. At first, I was

went out that Friday faithfully using all I'd
learned.

hiding behind routines and an avatar. I went
out and acted like Mystery, Mehow, Brad P,

My first night - in fact, the very first girl

whomever. Necessary at first, but clearly a
way of avoiding putting my real identity on

I opened - I got a k-close. A week later she
was in my bed, top and bra off, giving me

the line. This was gonna take work. Love me
or hate me, I become determined to just 'be

myself' without all the clutter of routines
and accessories. I declutter and simplify my

sent her home. OK, so this stuff worked.

approach, and it's a relief. But it means
being unreactive to what people might think

To backup, I'll give you some idea of my
social skills. I've spent my entire life

of me, of asserting myself, of going after
what I want undeterred. Again, lots of tough

mumbling and not making eye contact. I heard
'you should smile' all day, every day. If you

inner game work.
I read many books, including stuff by David

put me in a room of people, I sat there
listening, but not contributing. I often went

Deida, Eckhart Tolle and a bunch of PU gurus.
It all seeps into my psyche and there's a

to the park in my 20s, sitting on bench
watching people, again not talking to anyone.

deep shift.

Pretty much after college for about 16 years
I didn't speak to many people except my

Most of my epiphanies have been documented
somewhere, either on a forum or in my field

girlfriends.

guide.

And as for those, the relationships lasted 2
weeks to a couple years. The normal girls

In short, chasing tail takes a backseat to
just trying to be 'normal' and at peace with

were 2 weeks, the psychos were 2 years. None
of my LTRs consisted of me selecting a girl I

myself and my life. All the chaos in my life
situation still exists, but I now have a

wanted to date based on her personality or
other qualifications. They typically

lightness of being. This is the biggest plus
so far of being in the community (in addition

to all the new friends I've made). When I
started, I was able to leave all my worries

always had high standards in that dept, even
if I felt I didn't deserve to.

at the door and go into 'game mode.' But I
wanted to BE game, not do it. So I evolved

So. You go into field thinking you're gonna

further. Now, my worries aren't even worries;
problems are illusory and only exist if you

start being this mack daddy playa. No
problem. Drop some negs, move girls around,

let them. I no longer sit at home wishing I
had friends; I don’t ever accept my excuses

get their #s. But wait. You can't even
approach because you have AA. Hmm, never knew

or inaction; I stay fully in the moment and
outside my head.

I did, because I never really tried talking
to random girls in public. I get to work on

I've gotten so much more from being in the

AA, 5-7 nights a week. Open, open, open.
1000s of sets. Gradually, it goes away. Over

game than I'd ever expected when I came into
it. Of course, it's been a rough journey full

the course of a year, I can comfortably work
a room. Not just no AA, not just comfortable

of tests and disappointments, but the end
result proves it is worth the perseverance.

in the venue, but actually having a great
night, like it's my birthday.

Meeting me now, you would never believe I was
the person I was when I watched that VH1

Then I go to work on my subcoms. I work on

show. I’ve come a long way, but I’ll be
the first to admit I have still a ways to go

making EC with every person I meet. Very
tough habit to break, but I do it. This takes

on my journey. That’s ok, I have my whole
life to get this sorted out.