Carlos Xuma's Biography(Books)(Photos)

Carlos Xuma is well-known by just about any
guy who is interested in getting better with

techniques (model verbal and physical
actions) and confidence-building to ensure

women. A major contributor to his
considerable popularity is his authenticity.

that they are achieving authentic
attraction.

Carlos is all about helping men be the best
they can be, and it shows. Listen in as we

Advice on Attraction

deal with a topic that consistently derails
both men and women when it comes to dating

Xuma argues that most of the problems men
face in romance and attraction stem from a

success. Find out what "games" really are,
how to identify them and...most

gender disadvantage: women are socialized to
be collaborators and communicators from early

importantly...how you can finally deal with
them effectively. Never be anyone's fool ever

childhood, while men are socialized as
independent and competitors. His instruction

again.

aims to rehabilitate of a man's
self-confidence. He describes the three

Carlos has been a featured advisor and author
on ABC Television - "View from the Bay", CBS

primary parts of a man's masculine confidence
as: 1) Self-esteem (how worthy a man views

himself), 2) Self-image (the roles or actions
a man can and cannot envision himself

French Canadian "Maxim"), Focus News Fast
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abilities in general.)

Carlos Xuma writes about dating challenges

Furthermore, three parts appeal to a man's
attractiveness to women: 1) Self-discipline,

and how to overcome them, all from the
man’s perspective. He understands that

2) Self-confidence, and 3) Sense of humor.
These are referred to as the "Three S's," and

women have shared information on how to rule
the world of relationships since time began.

they form the framework of a man's approach
to interaction with women.

They rule through sexual power and an innate
understanding of psychology and persuasion.

Xuma contends that men in the post-feminist

Guys need that same knowledge.

era (born after 1970) lack advantage with
women in terms of socialization. Due to the

You need an ally in this game, and Carlos is

proliferation of media images and - as Xuma
states - "Disney programming," men are

here to give you that winning edge. The
methods and techniques you learn in his

confused as to their gender roles and to what
women find genuinely and uniquely attractive

various programs teach you how to be more
successful with women by winning at your

about men. These attractive qualities, Xuma
states, have not changed - only undergone an

INNER game. Inner game is the sense of
selfconfidence and self-esteem that a true

evolution.

Alpha Man feels when his life is together. He
has goals and a purpose.

Relationships are no longer what they once
were - required for survival, and that the

Character and integrity.

only remaining enticement of marriage and
long-term relationships is self-improvement.

And if a man is going somewhere in life with

Xuma is noted as saying: "You will learn more
about yourself in the context of a long-term

a passion, women will want to be a part of
that lifestyle. No deception, tricks, or

relationship then you will in any other way.

hypnosis. You learn how to succeed with women
by being the best man you can be - from the

As the internet came along and the seduction

inside out.

community exploded in 2005 to 2006, Carlos
continues to stay focused on natural game by

Carlos’ dating tips and advice for men are
seen and/or heard on World Talk Radio, Maxim

drawing out authentic personalities to
attract women, and creating your entire Alpha

Radio, Double Agent, Summum Magazine, The
Dating Insider Book, Bikini Hangout,

Lifestyle.

About.com, SeductionLair.com, Don Juan, and
many more online and offline publications.

Carlos Xuma is the author of The Dating Black

Playboy Magazine
cbs & abc television

Book and Seduction Method e-books, along with
the Secrets of the Alpha Man and the Approach

Neil Strauss’ Stylelife
Maxim Magazine

Women Now programs. He also produces and
records the Advanced Audio Coaching each

David DeAngelo’s Dating Gurus
The Allen Handelman “Rock Talk” Radio

month – now in its third year!

Show
Playboy Radio

Carlos also teaches Seminars in the San
Francisco Bay Area for men looking to

WorldTalk Radio
Summum Magazine

reconnect with their masculinity and become
more successful with women - both field work

Maxim Radio

as well as workshops.

According to Xuma he started out studying the
social dynamics and interaction between men

A lot of guys read too much into how to get a
girlfriend. In truth, starting a relationship

and women. This lead him to integrate his
martial arts training and Eastern philosophy

with a nice, good-looking woman is not that
difficult, so long as you don’t blow it

into a system of explanations and metaphors
of human interaction and motivational

right from the start.”

explanations.
Background

“One of the biggest factors in how to get a
girlfriend is not what TO do, but rather what

Xuma's core idea is the Alpha Male, who

NOT to.”

displays masculine and leadership behavior.
According to Xuma, this personality types

“So just remember that women need to be
touched quickly and confidently when you

incorporates useful traits, such as emotional
and social intelligence, ambition, verbal

first meet them. This triggers instinctual
responses in her that tell her that you are a

acuity, and a keen perception of character.
He encourages men to communicate their

sexual man, and that she should forget about
the “friends zone” with you.”